Thursday, September 4, 2008

He cheated....now what?

There is clear evidence that your husband/boyfriend has disrespected your relationship. You have had an uneasy feeling that something isn't right between the two of you lately; which drives you to start snooping around. Now you have found yourself checking voicemails, text messages and e-mail. Ah-ha! You have stumbled onto what you have been looking for, but now that you see it is that what you wanted to find. E-mails of conversations with other women, that are obviously more than just platonic friends. Even meeting dates they have had. What do you do? Will you approach him about this; but wait you snooped so are you in the wrong to say something. Or will you just ignore it as if it never happened because you want to keep your man? You know he cheated.....but now what?

4 comments:

2fabulous said...

I am definitely confronting him, no matter if I was snooping or not. He will have to explain what the f**k is going on with this other female, and of course I need to know if they have had sex together. I would want to know what made him feel he needed to go outside the relationship in the first place too. HONESTLY depending on the answers I get would determine if I would leave him. Yeah most women are quick to say I would leave but reality is sometimes you will stay and try to work things out. If he can promise this would never happen again and he is sincere about I would try. I would be hurt and not so forgiving at first but I would at least try. I may even suggest counseling for us. If he is just like I cheated whatever, then ok I'm out.

Reese said...

I agree with that. Also i would like to know when they do chaet and get caught WHY LIE. your busted just be honest and tell us the truth.

Reese said...

I agree with that. Also i would like to know when they do chaet and get caught WHY LIE. your busted just be honest and tell us the truth.

My King is My World said...

I would say confront him but also keep in your mind that you did commit the egregious act of snooping. A definite No No.
I don't think every situation is as cut and dry as you cheated, now get out. There are times you can weather the storm depending on the explanation and the strenth of your relationship and well lets face it, how many times this person has done this. You will be hurt, the trust will be shot, you will now think everytime he comes in one minute late, he was out with the next chick, but one day you wont. That is what you have to work to, But speaking from someone who lived the story numerous times, keep listening to the voicemail etc, until you can actually catch him doing the dirt because people get real creative with stories these days.
The moral of the story though is that it doesn't always mean its over once someone cheated. If you feel he is sincere in his apology and in his feelings towards you, You owe it to yourself to try again (if you were happy). At thevery least you know you gave it your all.